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Idah Aluoch Paxwear Swimwear Kenya

Top 10 Swimwear Fashion Designers in Kenya – Paxwear by Idah Aluoch

What is in a swimwear? Why is it becoming increasingly important for social media users to have photos on their timeline taken at the beach or by the poolside? How often do you come...
What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a man or a woman is raped everyday. Some of these rape survivors receive justice for these actions while some of them are left without justice and their abusers go freely. In any case, rape is painful and has tremendous effects on the survivor's life after the action. Everyone dreams of having sexual intercourse willingly and with the person they have romantic feelings with. This is because sex is not just about pleasure, its about attachment and becoming one with the other person. This is described as the best feeling ever. However the worst happens when one is forced to have sex without their consent. People tend to see the physical wounds and damage that rape causes to the survivor such as bleeding, physical wounds due to the harassment and many more. Unfortunately we fail to notice the emotional breakdown and mental suffering these survivor's go through. It is true not all wounds are visible and its the invisible wounds that hurt the most and cause the most damage.Emotionally rape survivors go through post traumatic stress including flashbacks and nightmares about the incident, severe and uncontrollable thoughts, they also go through depression involving sadness, feeling of hopelessness, unexplained crying and anxiety. The worst of all is suicidal thoughts and dissociation. Rape survivor's go through these emotional wounds without anyone noticing or seeing the internal suffering they go through. In addition to emotional suffering, rape survivor's also go through severe mental suffering due to the painful incident. The survivor's mentality about trusting others changes, they tend to see that everyone is an abuser and does not have good intentions about them. They also become angry and blame themselves for the incident. Due to the incident, rape survivor's tend to fear and feel vulnerable. No matter how strong the survivor's may seem, they can't help but feel helpless, in shock, numb, disoriented and the need to withdraw from others. The fact that these people feel this way doesn't mean they are weak but it means they are human and fighting it so they are strong. Different survivor's of rape in Kenya react differently to these wounds or pain. Some suppress them so no one notices and some react negatively to a point they may be called crazy or insane. They may develop a negative outlook about life and feel unworthy of a better life. This may lead to them trying using drugs and alcohol in a way to cope up with these overwhelming feelings. Some are seen to withdraw from others while others prefer sleeping and overworking to avoid feeling lonely. In a nutshell, survivors of rape in Kenya and globally face painful invisible wounds, and healing an invisible wound is the hardest. It requires love, patience, closure, understanding and the precious gift of time from the people that surround the survivor's for them to be whole again. Lastly to the survivor's, recovery will probably feel like you are getting worse, you will be anxious and fearful but its okay you are strong. You will think what will happen if I let go? How do I overcome? How do I become normal again? You should know its gets worse before it gets better and there is no disgrace in being a survivor of sexual violence. The rape tore you but it did not end you and you should show that surviving is beautiful.

The Invisible Wounds of Rape Survivors – End Rape in Kenya Campaign

What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a...
Crown-King-Chess

Winning the day Today!

Building on my "Win the Day" theme for this year, let's consider how to really do that. One of the ways I am making this stick is reminding myself of it at different times...
orange shirt

Orange Shirt

I am now currently dressed in it, the shirt is orange in color and it makes me feel blessed. It has black buttons which are 3 in number and are found at the top of the shirt,...
Love of my life

The Love ‘laugh’ of My life-By Kileta-Kenyan Love

You have always wondered if campus relationships were more of infatuation, lust, peer pressure or the Dog from Hell; Love. Your father who still subscribes to the old school of thought had looked you in...
Kenya Fashion Council Fotophreak Magazine

Kenya Fashion Council Community Spirit – Our Corona Virus Response

In an effort to further curb the spread of the COVID-19 virus, the Kenyan government has directed all citizens to wear masks when in public spaces. On March 30th, Kenya Fashion Council put out an...
Chef Ali Mandhry has been spotted on many occasions rocking designs by John Kaveke

Top 10 Fashion Designers in kenya – John Kaveke

John Kaveke, who I can comfortably refer to as the G.O.A.T, is an International Kenyan Fashion designer based in Nairobi. He is a graduand from Woodvale Grove Fashion college in Nairobi and later moved...
The African Fashion Fusion 2018

Fashion Lanes Drawn at the Third Edition of the African Fashion Fusion

The Kenyan fashion industry was smiling yet again on the 4th of August as the organizers of the African Fashion Fusion put together another epic show for the third time in a row. Concept...

Sugar Spice and Everything Nice – Mtindo Afrika 2017 (with pictures)

The fashion industry in Kenya has been experiencing a strong revolution and positive turnaround from about 7 years ago and everyone is loving it. This has seen the discovery and fast rise to prominence...
Workplace romance. Fotophreak Magazine

Why Workplace Romance Can Be Good for Business in the 21st Century

Workplace romance can be a tricky subject to navigate. Some people believe it can lead to conflicts of interest, awkwardness in the workplace, and even harassment allegations. Others see it as a natural part...