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My First Ride On A Motorbike #FirstTime4Everything

How're y'all doing fam, I will be following up a series of articles and stories about my first time doing everything; what it was like, the good times and the bad times. Be sure...
What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a man or a woman is raped everyday. Some of these rape survivors receive justice for these actions while some of them are left without justice and their abusers go freely. In any case, rape is painful and has tremendous effects on the survivor's life after the action. Everyone dreams of having sexual intercourse willingly and with the person they have romantic feelings with. This is because sex is not just about pleasure, its about attachment and becoming one with the other person. This is described as the best feeling ever. However the worst happens when one is forced to have sex without their consent. People tend to see the physical wounds and damage that rape causes to the survivor such as bleeding, physical wounds due to the harassment and many more. Unfortunately we fail to notice the emotional breakdown and mental suffering these survivor's go through. It is true not all wounds are visible and its the invisible wounds that hurt the most and cause the most damage.Emotionally rape survivors go through post traumatic stress including flashbacks and nightmares about the incident, severe and uncontrollable thoughts, they also go through depression involving sadness, feeling of hopelessness, unexplained crying and anxiety. The worst of all is suicidal thoughts and dissociation. Rape survivor's go through these emotional wounds without anyone noticing or seeing the internal suffering they go through. In addition to emotional suffering, rape survivor's also go through severe mental suffering due to the painful incident. The survivor's mentality about trusting others changes, they tend to see that everyone is an abuser and does not have good intentions about them. They also become angry and blame themselves for the incident. Due to the incident, rape survivor's tend to fear and feel vulnerable. No matter how strong the survivor's may seem, they can't help but feel helpless, in shock, numb, disoriented and the need to withdraw from others. The fact that these people feel this way doesn't mean they are weak but it means they are human and fighting it so they are strong. Different survivor's of rape in Kenya react differently to these wounds or pain. Some suppress them so no one notices and some react negatively to a point they may be called crazy or insane. They may develop a negative outlook about life and feel unworthy of a better life. This may lead to them trying using drugs and alcohol in a way to cope up with these overwhelming feelings. Some are seen to withdraw from others while others prefer sleeping and overworking to avoid feeling lonely. In a nutshell, survivors of rape in Kenya and globally face painful invisible wounds, and healing an invisible wound is the hardest. It requires love, patience, closure, understanding and the precious gift of time from the people that surround the survivor's for them to be whole again. Lastly to the survivor's, recovery will probably feel like you are getting worse, you will be anxious and fearful but its okay you are strong. You will think what will happen if I let go? How do I overcome? How do I become normal again? You should know its gets worse before it gets better and there is no disgrace in being a survivor of sexual violence. The rape tore you but it did not end you and you should show that surviving is beautiful.

The Invisible Wounds of Rape Survivors – End Rape in Kenya Campaign

What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a...
Stylish tips for pregnant women

Four Stylish Dressing Tips for Pregnant Women

An expanding belly, enlarged uterus, expanded waistline, increased breast size, stretch marks, varicose veins, thicker and fuller hair, acne and enlarged feet can make dressing a nightmare, for pregnant women. Dressing for different stages...
Cookie Crumbled - Fotophreak Magazine

The Cookie Crumbled

Things took a turn so fast, She had said yes She was certain he was her last, At least she believed that, All was great at first, She loved him with all her being, He loved her, maybe It didn't show...
Tasha Amerix you are the prize

I see my life on her lips, I’d put my future on her hips...

I’m woken up by the start of an engine, I slowly stir in my bed heavy with remnants of sleep. I stayed late watching Netflix’s Queen Charlotte, now it seems like a bad idea....
Black sheep

To The ‘Black sheeps’

Are you or have you ever been the black sheep of your family? Well… You just can't help it but make mistakes over and over and over again. You are defined as the stubborn one;...

Wisgad Arts Kenya – Hyperrealism and Pencil Art in Nairobi Kenya

The story of Wisgad Arts Kenya is one of resilience, patience, hard work, rediscovering one's potential, tapping into the inner strength and never giving up on your dream. Despite all the cruel challenges that...
mental health crisis

Evolution of Mental Health Crisis

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” Krishnamurti. This is a short story on the evolution of mental health. In August 2014, the Islamic State of Iraq...
Africa Fishermen Foundation is crowdfunding to purchase life jackets for Kenyan Fishermen

Life Jackets For Kenyan Fishermen Fundraiser – Africa Fishermen Foundation

Research shows that an estimated 5000 fishermen die on Lake Victoria every year due to different causes. Heavy storms in the lake, alcoholism and lack of Life jackets being one of major contributors to...
Top 10 Fashion Designers in Kenya Aulgah Nato

Top 10 Fashion Designers in Kenya – Aulgah Nato

Aulgah Nato is the owner and founder of the in-vogue Nato Designs produced at Aulgah Nato Fashion House. She is a fashion designer whose style is edgy and classic, and she greatly admires the...