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LBTQ Community Kenya Montero Lil Nas X

LGBTQ Community Kenya Secluded on Radio Talk Shows? Montero by Lil Nas X Scenario

It was about 4:30pm in the evening when I boarded a public transport vehicle to take me home. As a norm to us the millennials, our routine is to usually put on headphones as...
THE NAIROBI X LONDON SESSIONS 2021 BY CREATIVE DNA

THE NAIROBI X LONDON SESSIONS 2021 BY CREATIVE DNA

Creative DNA and the London Fashion Week 2021 edition of The Nairobi x London Sessions, presented fresh perspectives of conversations on creativity during crisis, the influence cities’ infrastructure has on fashion, as well as...

Wisgad Arts Kenya – Hyperrealism and Pencil Art in Nairobi Kenya

The story of Wisgad Arts Kenya is one of resilience, patience, hard work, rediscovering one's potential, tapping into the inner strength and never giving up on your dream. Despite all the cruel challenges that...
Facade - Societal Standards of Normalcy that Leave us Looking Abnormal

Facade – Societal Standards of Normalcy that Leave us Looking Abnormal

Personally, I've had more why-I'm-I-like-this moments than I'd care to admit. I have realized that Society rarely likes Different. You are taught to accept all of you, to be bold, to speak up, and...
Blank Mask - The Powerful Mentality of a Strong Person

Blank Mask – The Powerful Mentality of a Strong Person

I have always wanted to be a strong person. Strength exudes maturity. That though what you’re dealing with hurts; Pain doesn’t win. You don’t allow it to. Sheer willpower does. You may have been...
Compound Effect - A story About The Little Things In Life

Compound Effect – A story About The Little Things In Life

Compound effect is the circumstance or instance where the little things you do and the little steps you take eventually create a very big change in you. When the year begins, most people are...

Left On The Table No More – An Opportunity to Turn Our Lives Around

What are you leaving on the table year in - year out? What has your lifestyle and your systems have you leaving on the table? What is it that you know you want but...
Rise African Woman - The Amanda Gorman Inspiration

Rise African Woman – The Amanda Gorman Inspiration

I am talking to you African woman Fight for your title and respect you have to earn So get out of your lonely cave Fight courageously and be brave Write that book you've been longing to Sign that...
What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a man or a woman is raped everyday. Some of these rape survivors receive justice for these actions while some of them are left without justice and their abusers go freely. In any case, rape is painful and has tremendous effects on the survivor's life after the action. Everyone dreams of having sexual intercourse willingly and with the person they have romantic feelings with. This is because sex is not just about pleasure, its about attachment and becoming one with the other person. This is described as the best feeling ever. However the worst happens when one is forced to have sex without their consent. People tend to see the physical wounds and damage that rape causes to the survivor such as bleeding, physical wounds due to the harassment and many more. Unfortunately we fail to notice the emotional breakdown and mental suffering these survivor's go through. It is true not all wounds are visible and its the invisible wounds that hurt the most and cause the most damage.Emotionally rape survivors go through post traumatic stress including flashbacks and nightmares about the incident, severe and uncontrollable thoughts, they also go through depression involving sadness, feeling of hopelessness, unexplained crying and anxiety. The worst of all is suicidal thoughts and dissociation. Rape survivor's go through these emotional wounds without anyone noticing or seeing the internal suffering they go through. In addition to emotional suffering, rape survivor's also go through severe mental suffering due to the painful incident. The survivor's mentality about trusting others changes, they tend to see that everyone is an abuser and does not have good intentions about them. They also become angry and blame themselves for the incident. Due to the incident, rape survivor's tend to fear and feel vulnerable. No matter how strong the survivor's may seem, they can't help but feel helpless, in shock, numb, disoriented and the need to withdraw from others. The fact that these people feel this way doesn't mean they are weak but it means they are human and fighting it so they are strong. Different survivor's of rape in Kenya react differently to these wounds or pain. Some suppress them so no one notices and some react negatively to a point they may be called crazy or insane. They may develop a negative outlook about life and feel unworthy of a better life. This may lead to them trying using drugs and alcohol in a way to cope up with these overwhelming feelings. Some are seen to withdraw from others while others prefer sleeping and overworking to avoid feeling lonely. In a nutshell, survivors of rape in Kenya and globally face painful invisible wounds, and healing an invisible wound is the hardest. It requires love, patience, closure, understanding and the precious gift of time from the people that surround the survivor's for them to be whole again. Lastly to the survivor's, recovery will probably feel like you are getting worse, you will be anxious and fearful but its okay you are strong. You will think what will happen if I let go? How do I overcome? How do I become normal again? You should know its gets worse before it gets better and there is no disgrace in being a survivor of sexual violence. The rape tore you but it did not end you and you should show that surviving is beautiful.

The Invisible Wounds of Rape Survivors – End Rape in Kenya Campaign

What comes into your mind when you think about rape in Kenya? The issue of rape has been a topic of discussion for so long, research showing that a girl or a boy, a...
Kiss Me Tonight

KISS ME TONIGHT

Kiss me tender with those plumpy pinky lips That taste like cherries and melon sweet Give me that kiss that's steamy yet sophisticated A kind that frees a soul that has long been baited I want to drink...